From East Cobber Magazine

Attend the SafePath Empowerment Luncheon featuring Chris Gavagan

SafePath Children’s Advocacy Center’s Community Council will host an Empowerment Luncheon featuring Chris Gavagan at the Cobb Senior Wellness Center on October 10, from 11:30-1:30pm.

A chance meeting with a hockey coach over twenty years ago uniquely qualified Chris Gavagan to tell the stories in Coached into Silence, a documentary about sexual abuse within the world of organized sports. In it, we will hear the stories of a diverse group of athletes whom the system failed to protect. Far more sinister than those failures of prevention, this film will shed light on the organizational, institutional and legal systems which have conspired to silence the victims while protecting profits, reputations and in some cases, the predators themselves.

Yet these clear cases of such clear-cut wrongs are the exceptions. It is rarely that simple. Much more often it is a combination of subtle failures by well-intentioned individuals which have prevented the proper actions from being taken to protect children in their care.

Drawing on lessons learned from 4 years of research and production on Coached into Silence, conversations with hundreds of survivors, parents, experts, and drawing on his personal experience as a victim of sexual abuse by a coach, he will discuss the ways that we as individuals and as a society unwittingly silence ourselves, and how those obstacles can be overcome.

Registration is $20 and includes lunch. To register, visit http://safepath.org/events/happenings%20.

honeynbees:

projectunbreakable:

joyfulheartinspired:

“My perpetrator’s words are the deepest, most insidious part of my abuse.
I wrote them down, I read them, I saw them in black and white on the paper. And I saw them reflected in the looks on th…

honeynbees:

projectunbreakable:

joyfulheartinspired:

“My perpetrator’s words are the deepest, most insidious part of my abuse.

I wrote them down, I read them, I saw them in black and white on the paper. And I saw them reflected in the looks on the faces of people in the street that day.

For the first time, I got those words off of me and out of me. It loosened my grip on the lie—the lie that somehow all of this was my fault, that somehow, at five years old, I caused it.

I held that sign, I bore its weight and I walked away lighter.” - Maile Zambuto in her introduction to Grace Brown; Joyful Revolution Gala 2012

Googling yourself while still in your pajamas at four-thirty pm on your birthday (this project is no longer run by a teenager!) is perhaps the lamest thing you can do. And I usually abstain from posting anything other than portraits on the website. However, Maile’s story about being photographed portrays exactly why I do this & I really wanted to share this one with you guys. 

Also, side note: about a year ago, I was graduating from high school. It’s amazing to me how much has changed in a year. Thanks for your continued support of both the project and of the survivors who participate. I can’t tell you what it means to me to see everyone come together. 

Grace

Looking at my project unbreakable photo makes me feel proud. That is powerful, especially since my trauma is so encumbered with feelings of shame and regret.

This Sunday I will be headed to Colorado Springs to attend the Safe Sport Leadership Conference, hosted by USA Swimming. In addition to taking part in a panel discussion Monday morning, I will have the honor/opportunity/responsibility of giving the keynote (!) address Monday night. 

Attendees will include leaders from the United States Olympic Committee and Olympic sport National Governing Bodies. I have been preparing the presentation of a lifetime (my lifetime anyway) for two weeks now, and I know that all that I can ever be or bring to any situation is the truest version of me, and I am certain that–if nothing else–it will live up to the Thoreau quote that I posted the other day, “that I will give them a strong dose of myself.”

Given the opportunity to speak to the most influential decision-makers in amateur sports, with many other leaders from national youth serving organizations in attendance…a captive audience for thirty minutes…what would *you* want to say to them? What would *you* need them to know?

“Two champions who stepped out of the shadows, shined a light on the the dark secret of child sexual abuse and showed us how to understand it and begin to heal." 
Gary Smith on heroes Kayla Harrison & R.A. Dickey in this week’…

“Two champions who stepped out of the shadows, shined a light on the the dark secret of child sexual abuse and showed us how to understand it and begin to heal." 

Gary Smith on heroes Kayla Harrison & R.A. Dickey in this week’s Sports Illustrated cover story: "Speak up, Speak out”